The title of this blog seems to be something that I would of found on jstor while doing research for an essay! So as a geeky history student I have a pretty good and broad knowledge of social history - the family, interaction between the sexes, what was deemed respectable/not respectable between men and women before and after marriage. As we speak I am writing my dissertation on the ideal housewife of the 1950s.
It occurred to me the other day as I was out with mates how the image of the ideal woman has drastically changed and with it the notions concerning love and sex. 100 years ago if you went home with a man who wasn't your husband you were shunned from society - called a number of names - 'whore' 'strumpet' the list is endless. Whereas nowadays it seems to be the normality. Guys don't seem to judge a girl if she comes home and sleeps with him the night they've met, in fact they expect it. Having a 'friend with benefits' is absolutely fine and I know plenty of people who simply refer to them as "no no its fine I don't fancy him or anything- its not like that - we are just good mates who sometimes have sex with one another." When was the notion lost that to have sex with someone you should be in love with them? I'm not saying you have to be married to have sex but you should at least care about the person and feel some sort of affection for them before you jump into bed with them. While my friend went home with her so called 'friend' - who she just has sex with when they feel like it, I pondered on this question... Has our society become so obsessed with sex that people need it so badly that you just don't need love anymore?
As a romantic I feel like this is a huge disappointment. If a guy wants to sleep with me just because I'm easy and pretty I would feel like a common prostitute tbh. There has to be something deeper than just physical attraction between two people. Yet everything around us screams that you have to be a sex expert and that everyone supposedly is. If you aren't no worries, there are great magazines such as Cosmopolitan giving you a step by step on 'How to give the perfect condom?' or '10 ways to satisfy your man.' It's a very intense image to live up to.
Lets hope that guys realise that we aren't all sex goddesses and don't learn all the tricks of the trade from women's magazines. Bring the romance back! Boys - there are still a few of us out there who want more than just an orgasm from you!
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